Divorce in your 20s – Now What?

//Divorce in your 20s – Now What?

All of us dream of falling in love and finding our soul mate. This is especially true when we are young. That is probably why young people fall in love very easily. They believe that all it takes to live is love and laughter. However, the sad reality is that these young couples in their 20s rarely know that marriage requires dedication and hard work.

Young people often jump the gun when it comes to tying the knot, but once they’ve taken this very important step in their life at a very young age, they begin to realize the things that they have missed out on. All of a sudden, they would have this desire to have a career, follow their dreams, hang out with their friends, go on a world tour, etc. The commitment of marriage begins to seem like a burden at this point, and as the novelty of being in love wears out, so does the marriage.

That is why today we see many people who marry young are divorced by the time they are in their 20s. But that does not mean that life should come to a standstill. Getting a divorce does not mean your world is about to end. Life will go on. Yes, you will have to deal with the legal issues related to your divorce. You will have to seek the services of a divorce lawyer. Your divorce process can be relatively easier compared if you do not have children yet compared to a couple with children. But once everything is finalized and the legal matters are settled, it is time to move on.

Here are some tips as to how you can do that:

  1. Do what you always wanted: When you marry, you often have to compromise on many things. Sometimes, this may mean sacrificing your dreams for the sake of your partner. Perhaps you wanted to be a doctor or a dancer but couldn’t do it when you got married. Well, now that you’re divorced, its time to get back to work and its time to make your dreams come true.
  2. Go out: Married couples tend to spend more time at home, and even if they go out, it is usually with each other. But now that you are divorced, you can go out whenever you want and with whoever you want. If you want to go to a concert, do it. If you want to just hang around with a friend and watch a game, go for it. Whatever you do, don’t become a hermit and don’t spend your life grieving over the loss of your marriage. A normal mourning period is understandable but don’t waste yourself away for a relationship that ended too soon.
  3. Focus on your fitness: Married people have too many things going on that they often fail to focus on their health and fitness. People often say that people who get divorced suddenly start to look much fitter and fresher. While there are no specific statistics to prove this claim, the fact is that now that you’re divorced, you may find the time to lose weight or just work towards getting more fit. Exercise can stimulate your brain and allow you to enjoy nature as well as meet other people. Stop mourning your marriage. Get out there and get fit.
  4. Get a pet: There are often couples who cannot agree on a pet or couples where one partner simply refuses to have a pet at home. If you are one of those people who always wanted a pet, now is the time to do it. Get a dog or cat, and you will see how your life changes. A dog will always be your friend. It will look after you, guard you and be at your side when you are ill. All you have to do is take it out for regular walks. This will help you keep fit as well and maybe offer some opportunities to socialize and meet new people.
  5. Make money: When you marry young, you really haven’t had much of a career. You also probably haven’t made a lot of money yet, and whatever you had, you probably lost most of it during the divorce proceedings. Divorce can really motivate you to pursue your career and work towards making more money.

 

Dealing with a divorce can be challenging, but it is something that you can survive if you put your mind to it. If you need any help dealing with the legal issues related to your divorce, contact us at The Law Firm of Caryn S. Fennell. Remember, this is not the end of the world. You have much more to achieve and much more to do in life, even if you get divorced in your 20s.

2018-08-21T11:56:04+00:00